Carolyn Hax

DEAR CAROLYN: My husband and I are busy; we sometimes refer to ourselves as “type double A.” He more than I, but we love to make lists and check off tasks. He loves being time-efficient — so do I — and nothing brings him more joy than multitasking.

Carolyn Hax

I have learned that if he has his back to me, don’t speak because he has his earbuds in and will not hear me. This happens so often that I feel frustrated and low-priority. I know I am not, he just loves to be hooked up while he is doing things. We do have time together, although sometimes we have to work to get that time. That’s not really bad, because I’m often out pursuing my hobby.

I have shared my frustration with him casually, and he told me to just approach him and he will take out his earbuds. But after doing it a couple of times, it just doesn’t feel very good to interrupt him; I have to get in his face, and I find myself just leaving him be, which feels sad. It feels like I’m alone.

I really don’t know if my perception is accurate, or if it has just become a sore spot to me and feels like it happens more often than it does. He is not being mean, this is truly him. He uses every minute to the max.

We used to stream a movie together on the weekend, but now he always has something already going. So a few times I just streamed by myself, and he felt hurt and said I should tell him and he’ll stop what he’s doing and come watch something with me.

It looks like I’m jealous of an iPad; I’m so proud. Any ideas?

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Source:: East Bay – Lifestyle

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