DEAR MISS MANNERS: I had a group of co-workers over for dinner and one of the women brought a delicious chocolate cake for dessert. As we were finishing dessert, a neighbor dropped over.
She sat down at the dinner table and I poured her a glass of wine. She reached over and took a piece of candy that was sitting on top of the cake — and I was OK with that, as her fingers only touched what she was eating.
Then she took some frosting off the cake with her finger. I think she saw my eyebrow raise, as she then went and got a spoon.
Knowing she can’t eat gluten, I did not offer her a piece of cake, but she kept using the spoon to eat the frosting. You get the picture: Spoon in the frosting, spoon in the mouth. Spoon in the frosting, spoon in the mouth. She ate almost all the frosting off of the remaining half of the cake.
I ended up throwing away the rest of the cake, as I didn’t want anyone catching a cold if she had one, and who wants cake with just a little frosting?
I know what she did was wrong. What I don’t know is how I could have politely said to stop. How do you say, “No one else is going to want a piece if you take all the frosting — especially when you lick the spoon and put it back on the cake”? Yuck.
I didn’t want to make a scene and embarrass her. My other guests were silent, but I think they were as puzzled as I was. How do you stop that behavior politely?
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Source:: East Bay – Entertainment