Welcome to Refinery29’s Fertility Diaries, where people chronicle their joyous, painful, and sometimes complicated paths to parenthood.
History: I recently turned 38 years old and I have a 3-and-a-half year old son, who was conceived 4 months after I had my IUD removed with no fertility treatments. When our son was 2 years old, my husband and I started to try for another baby, only to be diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility. We worked through this with multiple IUI and IVF procedures done, in part, in the midst of the pandemic.
Location: Brooklyn, NY
Occupation: Research Project Manager
Household income: $150,000
We decide to try for another baby
We’ve been talking about having another baby since our son turned 1 last year. When our little guy was 18 months, I was certain it was time to attempt to get pregnant again in good faith, but my husband wasn’t quite ready yet. Finally, our toddler (!) turned 2 this fall, and my partner and I were on the same page. I make an appointment to get my IUD taken out in December.
I want to have a second child because parenting my son has been such a joy so far — he’s an incredible source of love and sunshine. I also want to give him a sibling, because my sister has always been my best friend.
Cost: $0. There’s no copay for removing my IUD, because it was removed at my annual wellness visit.
September 18, 2019
First consultation at a new fertility clinic
I’ve been trying to get pregnant for months now with no results. After my concerns about fertility were blown off by my old OB/GYN (who delivered my first son), I decide to try a new …read more